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Saturday, August 21, 2010

The carrot, the egg, and the coffee bean

A little story for all!(:

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling.
It seemed that, as one problem was solved, a new one arose. Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to a boil. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans.
She let them sit and boil, without saying a word. In about twenty minutes, she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me, what do you see?"
"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," the young woman replied. The mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?"

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity - boiling water - but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.
The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened! The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

"Which are you?" the mother asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?" Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong but, with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength? Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit but, after a death, a breakup, or a financial hardship, does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart? Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavour.
If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate to another level? How do you handle adversity?

Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?

p.sBe grateful to those who have hurt or harmed you, for they have enforced your determination -

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8:37 AM

Sunday, August 15, 2010

In a blink of an eye, I have been with JiaYing for 5 months already! 5 meaningful months and everyday was fun-filled. There's not a single boring moment being together with her. Thank you darling, for letting me love you and always making me smile.

Of course we went out to celebrate our 5th month together. We met at 10.40am at Dhobby Gaut and went down to somerset for breakfast. We had Burger King, it has been a long time since i ate that. It was very filling. Then we went down to Takashimaya and bought a large packet of chips before going to watch our movie, Salt.

Awesome movie, except it was a little confusing at some parts and it has a second part to it I think. Went to play pool at Lucky Plaza after the movie. We know now to avoid that place during weekends because it's packed full with maids. Played for an hour, I lost a round haha (OMG!!!!)

Went to Vivo City after pool to do a little shopping and I took her home. We made our monthiversary dinner at her house. We had fries, lotus soup, corn sticks and chicken. And that was our eventful celebration!

Now for some pictures!!

Dessert, Marigold soy milk!! haha


Chicken and potatoes

Lotus soup!!! JiaYing make de

Our Burger King breakfast! Spicy Tendercrisp

The fries we made(and crab sticks) took some time to make them.

The movie we watched, quite interesting


Our menu for dinner, delicious!!!!

Dedication to JiaYing

Today was so fun!!! Thank you darling, it's times like these that I feel that we are so so close!! Well we are always having fun like this so we are always close haha. We will always be happy like this! I love you baby, you are the cutest girl in the world!! Muacks muacks muacks muacks muacks muacks.

. Sebastian:)

If I had a single flower for every time I think about you, I could walk forever in my garden.

- Claudia Ghandi

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9:27 AM

Friday, August 13, 2010

Hi all! Today we had a cooking session together. It was kinda messy (well it was because of me) but the food turned out delicious. So let's see some pictures!

So this is the menu so today: Fried egg with otah and vermicelli with miscellaneous add-ons. Looks delicious doesn't it :)

A closer look at the egg, we had tartar and chilli sauce to go with it( JiaYing made this! She's so awesome!)

And here's the vermicelli. There's broccoli, cauliflower and crab sticks.( The veggies are cut by me!)

Spammed vinegar and pepper on everything, turned out surprisingly well.

And for dessert, we had chawanmushi! (JiaYing made this too! It was her idea)

Dedication to my darling:

Thank you darling, for always showing me a good time. These happy moments will go on forever! There isn't a single second you aren't on my mind. Whenever I close my eyes, the image that appears in my mind is always you. I will always be there for you, and will always hold you when you fall. I love you JiaYing!!

Sebastian:)

You are in my life. You are the only thing it will hurt to lose
- Stephanie Meyer

Sebastian :)

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6:51 AM

Thursday, August 12, 2010

Some random shot!(1)

Taken yearsss ago xDD

Had an insanely fun time webcamming with SEBAST XOXO!! Here are some screen shots taken during our session. The pictures speak a thousand words.

My darling is cute right? Aren't you jealous?LMAO ( sebast is so vainnnnnn :O)

CUTE COMPETITION (KE AI SAN LIAN PAI)

P.s : I look so unprepared for the shot :OOO (ROFL)

CANDID~

All the times I had with you are worth it. These moments are precious to me I love you SEBASTIAN OON (:

Dedication !
Baby , I bet I had done something very very good in my past life to get someone like you as a boyfriend.
You dote me like I am the only thing that matters , you love me like I am the reason for you to go on.
Darling , you are like the air that i breathe , the reason for me to wake up every morning.I am grateful
that I am able to love you. xD You are like my every and anything! - you are my best friend , my motivator ,
my companion , my father , mother , brother , sister . Really wanna spend my life with you! xOxO

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. it was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

- Judy Garland

Jiayingggggg :O

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8:24 AM

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Just want to do a dedication to my darling in this post. Darling, I may not be the best guy in the world, but I will love you like how the best lover loves their other half. As weeks and months passes, I can see it more clearly than before, that you are the one I will spend all my life loving.

You have no idea how much you have gotten me crazy over you. You are my little princess and angel!!! I will love you more each day, and I will do all I can to become a better guy. You have done so much for me and you made me really happy, you deserve better.

To the cutest girl in the world, Yap JiaYing. I love you!!!

Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.
- Captain Corelli's Mandolin6

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6:38 PM

Sunday, August 8, 2010

HAPPY BIRTHDAY SINGAPORE (: I am so

proud to be part of you !

Jiaying (:

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Pictures speak a thousand words ...

Went to fetch Jiaying at 10.45am today. Went to her house to have our weekly study session. Then we had celebration lunch for our similarities and differences, as shown in the picture above.

Had a very fun time cooking together. Menu for the day: Nuggets, potato, pasta with brocolli and pumpkin soup. We watched the aunty lucy movie. *So embarassing!!!*

Then we rehearsed our "pa yang er ren zu" dance a.k.a The pair who fears tickles( Jiaying loves to pull armpit hair and Sebast loves to pull Jiaying's cheeks!!!)

My trousers button broke halfway :O!!! Luckily Jiaying is a good seamstress and she helped me sew it back!!!(Training to become a good bride)

A photo of our kids! So cute!!! :)

Last but not least! We had a spring cleaning session. It's a fulfilling day.

Dedication to my beloved:

You are the sweetest girl anyone can find! I really enjoyed my time with you. I wish that times like this can go on forever! I love you darling, forever and always.

The best things in life are nearest: Breath in your nostrils, light in your eyes, flowers at your feet, duties at your hand, the path of right just before you. Then do not grasp at the stars, but do life's plain, common work as it comes, certain that daily duties and daily bread are the sweetest things in life.
Robert Louis Stevenson

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edited by jiaying!

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8:59 AM

Saturday, August 7, 2010

My mom only had one eye. I hated her, she was such an embarrassment. My mom ran a small shop at a flea market.She collected little weeds and such to sell, anything for the money we needed she was such an embarrassment.There was this one day during elementary school. I remember that it was field day, and my mom came. I was so embarrassed. How could she do this to me? I threw her a hateful look and ran out. The next day at school..."Your mom only has one eye?!" and they taunted me.
I wished that my mom would just disappear from this world so I said to my mom, "Mom, why don't you have the other eye?! You're only going to make me a laughingstock. Why don't you just die?" My mom did not respond. I guess I felt a little bad, but at the same time, it felt good to think that I had said what I'd wanted to say all this time.
Maybe it was because my mom hadn't punished me, but I didn't think that I had hurt her feelings very badly.
That night...I woke up, and went to the kitchen to get a glass of water. My mom was crying there, so quietly, as if she was afraid that she might wake me. I took a look at her, and then turned away. Because of the thing I had said to her earlier, there was something pinching at me in the corner of my heart. Even so, I hated my mother who was crying out of her one eye. So I told myself that I would grow up and become successful, because I hated my one-eyed mom and our desperate poverty.
Then I studied really hard. I left my mother and came to Seoul and studied, and got accepted in the Seoul University with all the confidence I had. Then, I got married. I bought a house of my own. Then I had kids, too. Now I'm living happily as a successful man. I like it here because it's a place that doesn't remind me of my mom.
This happiness was getting bigger and bigger, when someone unexpected came to see me "What?! Who's this?!"... It was my mother...Still with her one eye. It felt as if the whole sky was falling apart on me. My little girl ran away, scared of my mom's eye.
And I asked her, "Who are you? I don't know you!!!" as if I tried to make that real. I screamed at her "How dare you come to my house and scare my daughter! Get out here now!" And to this, my mother quietly answered, "oh, I'm so sorry. I may have gotten the wrong address," and she disappeared. Thank good ness... she doesn't recognize me. I was quite relieved. I told myself that I wasn't going to care, or think about this for the rest of my life.
Then a wave of relief came upon me... one day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house. I lied to my wife saying that I was going on a business trip. After the reunion, I went down to the old shack, that I used to call a house...just out of curiosity there, I found my mother fallen on the cold ground. But I did not shed a single tear. She had a piece of paper in her hand.... it was a letter to me.
My Son,
I think my life has been long enough now. And... I won't visit Seoul anymore... but would it be too much to ask if I wanted you to come visit me once in a while? I miss you so much. And I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion. But I decided not to go to the school.... For you... I'm sorry that I only have one eye, and I was an embarrassment for you.
You see, when you were very little, you got into an accident, and lost your eye. As a mother, I couldn't stand watching you having to grow up with only one eye... so I gave you mine... I was so proud of my son that was seeing a whole new world for me, in my place, with that eye. I was never upset at you for anything you did. The couple times that you were angry with me. I thought to myself, 'it's because he loves me.' I miss the times when you were still young around me.
I miss you so much. I love you. You mean the world to me. My world shattered! Then I cried for the person who lived for me. My Mother.

Do your little bit of good where you are; it's those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world.
NIGHTS! jiayinggggg:O

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